Once a member purchases the Basic membership they gain access to the member portal where there are next steps for completing the program.

The first step is to fill out a detailed 3 page questionnaire. The questionnaire is how we learn all about you and what you are looking for.

Next you will start the educational program which consists of one course with two lessons, learning materials, quizzes, and reflective questions. This is meant to share information and insight about loving cuckolding relationships, recognize barriers to dating, and how to choose the right approach when dating in this lifestyle. Although you have three weeks to complete the lessons, most people complete them in a day or two. Once you have completed the course you will be directed to a page to schedule your 45 minute interview with Venus.

The interview is where we fine tune what you are looking for and understand more about you. Once the interview is completed you will be added to our private registry of candidates. After that if/when a match is made we will contact you by email to arrange a virtual date.

We take great care to match our candidates so it can take time for the right person to come along who is looking for someone like you, and you for them. We obviously cannot guarantee any matches for our clients nor commit to a time frame when matches could happen, however in your interview Venus does give frank and honest feedback about any potential barriers or challenges to matching that might apply to you, so that you can have realistic expectations and possibly adapt and improve your chances.

Basic members who have completed the program and interview are able to apply for an Elite membership (optional). There is a selection and interview process required to be able to purchase an Elite membership and there are limited memberships available.


Here at Venus Connections we take honesty and truthfulness very seriously and we believe that great relationships must start with a solid foundation of trust. If we find that you have not been honest or have portrayed yourself incorrectly on your questionnaire, in your interview, or with a match, you will be removed from the program. This includes providing false names or other personal information.

Please note that all members (female and male) are required to complete the initial questionnaire, the course consisting of lessons 1 and 2, and have an interview with Venus. Also please note that once you submit your initial questionnaire you then have up to 3 weeks to complete lessons 1 and 2. If you require a time extension, you will need to email us to ask for an extension prior to the end of the 3 weeks. Failure to complete the lessons within the 3 weeks and without a request for extension will result in removal from the program.


Men’s Basic Membership

  • The full 3 week Venus Connections Education Program tailored specifically for men
  • A private 45 minute interview with Venus to learn about exactly what you are looking for
  • Your detailed and individualized profile is then added to our private dating registry of candidates and you are notified when a match is made
  • Your first match is free, then each match after that is $35 CAD

Men’s Elite Membership

The Men’s Elite Membership is an exclusive top tier within the Venus Connections program. Current Basic members who have completed the education program and interview can apply. It is reserved for distinguished gentlemen who are hand selected by Venus and who meet certain criteria and there are a limited number of memberships available. The Elite members are considered to be the highest quality candidates and are highly sought after by the Women Elite members in the program. The Men’s Elite Membership is valid for 1 year, after which time the membership reverts to a Basic Membership. Elite membership comes with all of the benefits of a Basic membership plus more.

  • The full 3 week Venus Connections Education Program tailored specifically for men
  • A private 45 minute interview with Venus to learn about exactly what you are looking for
  • Your detailed and individualized profile is then added to our private dating registry of candidates and you are notified when a match is made
  • Unlimited free matches for the duration of your Elite membership (1 year)
  • Free access to new educational courses for the Venus Connections program (coming soon)
  • A 45 minute private video chat with Venus every 3 months
  • Men’s Elite members are featured for the Women’s Elite members once a month (anonymously with no personal information or photos of course) privately through email
  • A certificate of high recommendation from Venus
  • Free access to Pillow Talk events and other LiveCast events for The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast
  • Free access to Venus Connections events and webinars (coming soon)

Women’s Elite Matchmaking Membership

Women can email venusconnections4@gmail.com to inquire about women-only discounts. Membership includes:

  • a team of professionals who do the searching for you – no need to deal with any of the usual online stress, just sit back and relax, we do the work for you!
  • unlimited matches with high quality successful single men who are actually serious and committed to finding a loving cuckolding relationship, and who approach dating in a respectful way
  • the full education program tailored specifically for women
  • a private interview with Venus to learn about what it is you are looking for
  • access to a private women’s only chat group with other single women in the lifestyle – a place to connect, support, and socialize with others
  • Free access to Venus Connections events and webinars (coming soon)

Frequently Asked Questions

How many dates will I have and how often?

We do not guarantee any dates in the Venus Connections program nor do we estimate how often someone can anticipate having dates. Our Elite members do tend to have more dates than Basic members. Not everyone is able to be matched and it just depends on how much a member has to offer in a relationship, how narrow or broad their criteria is, and if there is or is not someone else in the program who is looking for the exact same thing as them. Patience and having realistic expectations is crucial in the Venus Connections Program.

Do you have members in Canada? Do you have members in the UK? Worldwide?

At present most of our members are in the United States, with some additional members in Canada, some in the UK, and a few from other countries around the world.

I am currently in a relationship. Can I still join your service?

No. Venus Connections is only for single men and single women who are not in a relationship. This service is for singles who are looking for their life partner.

Can I find a woman who is into a specific kink like Queen of Spades, breeding, full sexual denial?

Many of the women in our program have no previous experience (or very little) with cuckolding relationships. They are drawn to the idea of this kind of relationship because they feel it really suits who they are. Unlike a lot of the men who are drawn to the idea of this from porn and already know what turns them on, the women likely do not know what “kinky” aspects of a cuckolding relationship (including interracial) that they want now and also don’t know what they would like in the future. It takes time and experience to learn what you like and what you don’t like. Therefore it is best to not approach this with a list of “must have’s” and instead be openminded to this being a journey of exploration with your partner.

Is Venus Connections right for me?

If you are seeking a loving cuckolding relationship with a life partner then this service is absolutely for you. People hire specialists such as financial advisors and personal trainers to handle so many aspects of their lives, so why not use a professional to help you find someone special.

How many women are in the Venus Connections Program?

This is a question we get asked often. On kink dating sites and Fetlife groups it seems like there are way more men seeking a cuckolding relationship than there are women. Does that reflect actual statistics or are the women just not there because the environment has been hostile for them?

We believe that there are many women who would love a cuckolding relationship but don’t know that the option exists. That’s why Venus started blogging 6 years ago and has been reaching millions with her podcast as well – to reach women and let them know that this beautiful relationship is a viable option.

We also believe that up until now, the negative environment that single women have endured online has been a huge deterrent for them to want to try to find someone. In fact, the single women who we have contacted online have expressed relief that this is finally available to them and joined right away.

With that being said, we do anticipate the ratio of women to men to mirror what research has showed in the United States. Dr. Justin Lehmiller is the author of “Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help Improve Your Sex Life,”. Dr. Lehmiller surveyed thousands of Americans and found that 58% of men and about a third of women had fantasized about cuckolding.

There are many women who are interested in cuckolding but who need to learn about it and have a safe and private place online to be able to find a partner for a loving cuckolding relationship – that’s what we work towards here.

I’m worried about my personal information. Is this site safe?

Venus has had to worry about her personal information being released to the public for years. Although she’s not worried about being embarrassed if friends or family know about her relationship interests, she does however have to be seriously concerned about the very real threat women face – being stalked and killed. For this reason she takes privacy very seriously and has always invested in the highest level firewall and security for this site.

What is the Dating Registry?

The registry is our private pool of candidates who are looking for a long term loving cuckolding relationship. It is private and not available for public or private viewing by members.

Do I have to provide my personal information or photos of myself?

We do require your personal information and two photos of yourself. These are strictly for us to use to get to know you and make more personalized matches for you. At no time do we ever share your information publicly or with other members without your explicit written consent. If you are not comfortable sharing this information with us then this is not the program for you.

What if I don’t want to do the 3 week educational courses?

The educational courses are mandatory for all members and must be completed within the first 3 weeks of entering the program.

Can I find someone local to my city?

Finding love is never easy. Finding love within a cuckolding relationship is also not an easy task but we make connecting easier here at Venus Connections. All members are expected to be willing to date long distance (and have the means for travel) at least initially, if required. Members are responsible for costs associated with traveling to meet their new partner in person, if required.

Am I guaranteed to meet my life partner on here?

Although we work hard to make meaningful matches on Venus Connections, there is no guarantee that you will find love.

Can I cancel anytime?

Yes you can cancel your membership anytime but the membership fee is non-refundable. You can put your membership on hold anytime by notifying us in writing (email) and resume it at no charge but if you cancel your membership and then wish to resume you will need to pay the membership fee again.

I have many cuckolding fantasies that I want to have fulfilled. Is this the right place for me?

Here at Venus Connections we believe the heavy emphasis should be on initial relationship building and lighter on the fantasies. After all, it’s the loving relationship which makes the cuckolding part so special and meaningful. All members should be willing to focus on learning about their potential partners as a person and not as a means to fulfill a list of fantasies.

Do I have to have experience with cuckolding relationships to be a member?

Although experience is definitely an asset, it is not required. We provide education courses on loving cuckolding relationships so you can get a realistic concept of loving cuckolding relationships and dating in the LCR lifestyle.

What are virtual dates?

Once you are matched with someone who we think might be an ideal partner for you, you will receive an email with instructions about your virtual date. We use a simple online audio/video program for you to have a 30 minute conversation with your match. You must be on time, presentable, polite, and use your audio and video. Virtual dates are “blind dates” meaning you won’t know what your date looks like prior, which we think makes it more fun and exciting!

What if I change my mind about wanting a cuckolding relationship?

If you are hesitant or not entirely sure if a loving cuckolding relationship is right for you, DO NOT join the Venus Connections program. All members must be entirely committed to the process and to finding a loving cuckolding relationship. Backing out of an interview or virtual date due to fear is not acceptable behaviour and will result in your dismissal from the program.

How do I get started?

Once you’ve purchased a Basic membership you will have access to the Members Portal here on Venus Connections. There you will find the step by step instructions for completing the initial questionnaire, the educational course, and scheduling your interview. Our staff may also be send you information by email to help you and answer any questions you may have.

How would someone be removed from the program?

There are some things that could lead to a member being removed from the program. Here are some examples:

  1. Being under the age of 21
  2. Looking for a type of relationship that conflicts with a loving cuckolding relationship ie. findom, abuse etc
  3. Lying, dishonesty, or misleading information on your questionnaire, in your interview, or with a match
  4. Refusing to complete the educational program
  5. You are already in a relationship when you sign up for the program (you are not single)
  6. No-show for your interview or virtual date
  7. Cancelling a virtual date with less than 48 hours notice
  8. General continued portrayal of incompetency, tardiness, disorganization, poor life skills, combative or offensive character
  9. Breaching our terms of service
Do women get thoroughly screened as well as the men?

Absolutely. The women go through the same careful scrutiny to ensure they don’t have ulterior motives and are genuine and sincere about wanting a loving cuckolding relationship. If we decide that the candidate is not a good fit for our program we will cancel their membership.

Do I have to be totally honest on my questionnaire?

Yes. If you are dishonest or lie about anything on your questionnaire, in your interview, or with a match, you will be removed from the program.

What are the ages of the women in the program?

Most of the women in the program are in their 30’s and 40’s. The ages range from 29 to mid 50’s. The men however range from 21 to late 70’s. Most of the women are looking for men who range in age from 30 to 50’s.

Do I have to be wealthy to get a date in the Venus Connections program?

Dating in the cuckolding lifestyle is very similar to regular vanilla dating. It is a very competitive dating world for single men and they need to work hard to get results. The more you have to offer in a relationship (established career, attractiveness, sense of personal style, personality, relationship experience, a fit body etc.) the more you stand out from the rest. Since most of the women in the program are ages 30 and up, they tend to look for someone who is advanced in their career and have achieved many of their life goals. Nearly all of the women have their own successful careers and are looking for the same in a partner. If you are unemployed, have a low income job, don’t put effort into appearance or style, or live with family or roommates it makes it harder for you to find a date in the vanilla dating world and in this matchmaking service as well.

Can I date outside of the program as well as be a member of Venus Connections?

Yes! It’s hard to find your life partner so we encourage you to pursue all options you have available. You can continue to look for a partner outside of this program however you must email us to pause your membership as soon as you start dating someone or focusing your time and attention on someone outside of our program.